Isreal and his estranged wife, Sheila, are a perfect example of when a man prioritises criteria that do not serve any purpose in the relationship other than to massage his ego, over the ones that will actually guarantee a successful and happy relationship.
When he started wooing Sheila, he did not take her age, character/values, personality, ambitions, goals, and financial orientation into consideration. He didn’t even court her. All he saw was her lack of pecksual experience and the fact that her parents are pastors; and that was enough for him to start pressuring her for marriage.
The marriage broke down before they celebrated their first anniversary.
Why?
Because they were not compatible.
Some of you might say, “But Sheila also prioritised Israel’s association with Davido. In fact, that’s why she agreed to marry him in the first place”.
And in that case, my question would be, “Isn’t the closeness to a public figure of practical use?”
It’s thanks to that closeness that Israel was able to amass over 800K followers on Instagram and Sheila grew hers to 150K by proxy.
Unlike Israel, Sheila is smart and business savvy. She knew she could convert her husband’s network into hard currency and she did just that.
What exactly did Israel obtain from satisfying his desire to be his wife’s first?
That’s the difference between practical and self-serving criteria.
Today, Sheila is living the kind of life she couldn’t have lived with a man like Israel and is happy, while Israel has been miserable since their separation and breaks into emotional outbursts every couple of months.
Practical vs self-serving.
She obtained the social currency that she wanted, while he realised that everything he thought he wanted was just an illusion.
