On their Fortieth Wedding Anniversary, Betty Irabor penned this beautiful piece and I believe anyone who’s married for a decade and above could relate. Meanwhile, here is wishing this wonderful couple Happy Wedding Anniversary. 
By Betty Irabor
I remember the first and only time I ran away from our home at Dolphin Estate as a married woman. It was so humbling and hilarious. That’s probably why I never tried it again
Imagine running away and no one comes to beg or look for you?
Imagine running away and no one comes to beg or look for you?Where’s the fun?
Here’s how it started.
Hubby and I had a quarrel and disagreed over something that didn’t even make sense, so I packed a bag and drove off in my Volkswagen Beetles.
Where was I going? Me that was an overpampered wife of a doting husband? Any way Sha, I landed at a guest house opposite Cactus in VI. I checked in about 4pm and then I had no idea what to do with myself. I was like, okay, what next? I already missed home but I couldn’t return until hubby and a retinue of his friends came to beg. The problem was that there were no cell phones then. He didn’t know where I went, even though I imagined him pacing up and down. The guest house was cold & I got stares (a woman in a guest house?).
To be honest, I was very lonely.
I finally came up with a plan about 8pm. I called a friend and asked her to come take me home but was to pretend she begged and forced me to go home. Chai, the shame
I never “Ran Away” after that!!
Marriage!!
There’s no art or science on how to make it work. And unlike love, which people say is blind, marriage wears binoculars and it amplifies character, behaviours and personality. You can’t fake happiness in a marriage & there’s no marriage that is ideal. Marriage is work! That’s the glaring truth.
40 years into our “Forever” and I am happy for the highs, the in-betweens and well, the LOWS, which strengthen us to face adversity together.
Oh, it has been a journey and a half but a journey of compassion, friendship, commitment, tolerance, selflessness, laughter and the discovery of what love is really about… (still searching)
Grateful to @africamagic @busola_tej and the wonderful team for giving us a platform to share our #foreverafter story with you all.
It’s tonight on Africa Magic Urban 8pm.. yaaaaayyyyy
We hope our journey inspires you with it’s unfiltered authenticity
